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Today's guest is someone who's been part of this journey since day one. Literally. Yami Soriano was the very first person I ever recorded an interview for in the middle of the fence. And she's back for a full circle moment. Yami is a proud Dominican woman, a mother, and a personality full of energy, honesty, and real-life perspective. Whether she's talking about trusting your gut, navigating relationships, or stepping into a new chapter of life, she brings authenticity, humor, and depth to every conversation. With her 30th birthday around the corner during Aerie season, this episode is all about growth, self-awareness, and embracing who you're becoming. Let's get into it. If you're watching, you can obviously see why, but if you're uh not tuning in from a video perspective, uh we have a returning guest, not just any returning guest, but she was actually the very first person that I interviewed for the Middle of the Fence podcast. So no introduction is really needed. So let me introduce everyone, Miss Yami Soriano. Thanks for coming back on.

SPEAKER_02 1:25

Thanks for having me.

SPEAKER_00 1:26

Of course, of course, and happy birthday. Shout out to all the Aries. I'm not an Aries, but shout out to Aries. Airie season is in full effect. The weather could be the weather could be a little bit better for Aries Season. Speaking from a Jersey perspective, I mean, I don't know if you want to weigh in on that.

SPEAKER_02 1:44

Let me tell you something. As an Aries, it's always raining in March and April. I'll take it. This is fine. And this is the air, anybody who's an Aries will in New Jersey at least. In New Jersey, the ghetto rain will not let you live. So whatever this is, I yes, you keep doing that, Mother Nature. Mm-hmm. I like that. I like that. Indeed. I did, indeed.

SPEAKER_00 2:03

That's what's up. That's what's up. So let's just get right into it. You ready?

SPEAKER_02 2:08

Yes, I'm ready. Alright, let's do it. Oh my god, I'm so excited, guys. I'm so excited. Y'all have no idea. Okay, I'm ready. Let's go. Let's keep serious, y'all.

SPEAKER_00 2:15

So as I mentioned, uh, you were the very first person I ever interviewed for middle of the fence. So thank you so much, and thank you for coming back.

SPEAKER_02 2:22

Hair flip.

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If you could go back and talk to that version of yourself sitting in that chair, what would you say to her now? And this is circa like December 2024.

SPEAKER_02 2:32

Was it 24? I thought it was 25. That's crazy. Time goes by so fast. Um, well, see that? Y'all saw that? Don't let me say um. You see, if you hear me say um, nip it in the butt. Right. I hate when I do that. Gotcha. If I could say something to the girl sitting there, I would say that trust your gut instincts more. God made you such a special person. I'm such a special person. I'm sure I feel like I'm such a light in the world. And sometimes I take my gut instincts, or like I make a lot of excuses for people. I find that because I'm so nice and things like that, I do not hold things for as face value. And I need to start trusting my gut instincts more. Whatever you feel in that first initial reaction is not, I, you know, since I'm Dominican, you know, we like you're overreacting. But we I feel like I'm overreacting to things sometimes, or I feel like because I try to be so emotionally aware that I make justifications for how I feel. And it's like, no, like listen to your gut. It's there for a reason.

SPEAKER_00 3:37

Yeah, and that's and that's great the way that you put it, because listening to your intuition and your gut, it's something that we hear all the time. Um it's very difficult. It's very hard. It is, I feel that it's a skill that has to be developed, honestly.

SPEAKER_02 3:55

Because like people act like this so easy, like it just comes so natural.

SPEAKER_00 3:58

Like it takes a lot of years of practice because there's times where you listen to it and it's like, yeah, I was right. And then times where it's like, you need to do this. No, I'm not doing that.

SPEAKER_02 4:10

I'm not doing that because it's crazy. And then you're like, fuck, I shouldn't put it to my gut. No for real. Like, it's the time it goes. You know what I'm saying? It's like, do I turn this bitch up? Like, is this the time to turn this bitch up? Or is like, nah, nah, nah, nah, let me chill, let me chill each other. Because I really could turn this bitch up. Nah, nah, nah, let me chill each other. I'm telling you, the gut. And also, now that like thinking about it from like the inside out perspective, low-key, like, you can't see, this sounds crazy. You can't see your inner person. You know what I mean? Like, you know how like in the shows, it's like, it's portrayed, like the inner critique talking to you or whatever. And it's like, it's very hard to low-key listen to someone that's not there.

SPEAKER_00 4:51

Yeah. It's interesting. And one of the things, and one of the things that you said that stuck out to me was that one of the things that you're learning is uh or have learned is that you make excuses for some people. Yes. Um do you mind delving in a little deeper and how exactly that shows up or like an example? Absolutely.

SPEAKER_02 5:13

Um like um, we're gonna reel it in, y'all. I feel like uh sometimes people do things to me, or like their behavior is like I would never do that to you. And it's like, you know, you make an ex you make excuses like oh maybe they're going through this, or like life is hard as an adult. We all have the same adult life. It it just manif it's just formatted in different ways, right? Absolutely. So if I feel some type of way about something, like someone has said something to me about my behavior. And I was like, that's really just me. Like, I'm I and I was like, okay, maybe like I'm sometimes I can be insensitive. I'm very, I'm very dark humored. That's very me, like very, very, very dark humored.

SPEAKER_00 6:02

That's that that's definitely because of the hair, uh, the heavy uh Aries. Very aries.

SPEAKER_02 6:07

Yeah, very Aries, and I'm very, I'm when I'm comfortable, I'm extremely blunt. I don't really hold back. And someone was like, you know, you can't do that. And I'll and I sat there for a second because they had checked me on my behavior, and I was like, Well, that's just me. Like, I don't, I don't really find an issue on my behavior. And I was trying to figure out like if I'm being sensitive, or is it because like I'm really upset that they check me because of my personality? And it's like, I understand that I can be aggressive sometimes, or just you for for people who don't understand, who don't know me, I can come up very strong. Like my personality is very out there. So I was I was mad that they checked me, and then I had to I had to reel it in like it has absolutely nothing to do with you, and everything probably to do with them, you know. And I also learned getting into my adult life, like I'm myself anywhere you go, but you can't be yourself with everybody. Like everybody doesn't deserve that level of you all the time. Or to have access to it. Of to have access to, you know what I'm saying? Everybody ain't your friend. Everybody is not your friend. And just because I get along, me and you, we're people, we just get along. We're just people, people. Like, people come up. Come on now. Yeah, people just like us, like we, you know, and we get along with people, and that's great. But the fact of the matter is that everyone is not our friend. Everyone doesn't all want to be around us and and you know, doesn't share the same like stuff we do.

SPEAKER_00 7:36

Yeah, and yeah, one and a thing to like distinguish with what you said was that you know when that person, you know, checked you for that, and it's just like it's just like so hard when I was gonna be shading. Good lord. It's just it's just part of your personality. Yeah. And I think that that is something that uh just growing up is something that is learned where it's like, hey, if someone does something to you or it comes off in like a certain way, then it's not always because, oh, like I'm trying to do that person dirty or like belittle them. Sometimes it generally is like I'm really like that. I'm really like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm genuinely like that.

SPEAKER_02 8:20

But and it's and it's really because they have that like subconscious of people being that way in their minds. You know, like you know, you know those people, like they believe that everything is shady or like you know, everything, you know, everything is out to get them type thing. And it's like, nah, dog, that's really just that's how the cookie crumbles.

SPEAKER_00 8:40

Like, I really can't, I really can't help you. Like, and when you generally operate as like a good person, then you know when you're genuinely in the wrong of like, oh yeah. Like, I alright, like you were right, I was wrong.

SPEAKER_02 8:52

You know, but I'm being a shady ass bitch, I'd be like, yeah, you know, that was being a shady ass bitch. Like I was being dumb, shady, like, yeah, like, and I'm I know when I'll be in a bitch. And I was, you know, when you're genuinely not wrong, you'd be like, Are you serious? But it's also and it's also something else I realized that things aren't that big of a deal to me. Like, I let things like roll off the shoulder. A lot of things roll off the shoulder, which is also not good. But I let things roll off the shoulder, and I noticed that like it would take a lot for me to like really like genuinely sit down and be like, hey, this was really this was really wrong. This was really wrong, and I really don't like the way you did it. It would it would be like something like really like bad for me to do that. But in other people, when they have grievances, when they have issues, they check it right away. And it's like, well, I can't be mad that you took your grievances and it chose to express them right away. That's my beef because I don't do that. That I think that's what made me so mad. It's like I I'm so like, yeah, I don't care, whatever. Like when things bother me, I'm like, all right, let me just let me just take a second. But people do have a right to express their grievances, whether it's now, later, or something like that. So I guess I'm just trying I'm in I'm in the middle of like figuring out when is the right time to say this bothered me. I didn't like that. Because I'm a I'm a heavy believer in time and place. Stuff like that.

SPEAKER_00 10:18

No, absolutely. Yeah. And all this ties in very well because uh you are turning 30. Oh my god. Uh I am also turning 30 pretty soon at the time of uh recording.

SPEAKER_02 10:29

Apparently I'm not I'm not an old ho yet. Apparently you're old ho when you're 33. I saw that posted it. Oh they are an old ho when you're 33. Then we got a few years left before we're old hoes. I mean, old hoes are still in, though, apparently. You know, we're apparently we're still they're still in calibration.

SPEAKER_00 10:46

But all jokes aside, now that we're both stepping into 30, what's something about your 20s that you've outgrown and something you're actually grateful you went through?

SPEAKER_02 10:56

Okay. Something that I outgrew in my 20s. I'm gonna hold y'all's hand when I say this. We don't have to stay in the club until the lights come on. Good grief!

SPEAKER_01 11:07

What is it?

SPEAKER_02 11:08

Are we losers? What is wrong? There's nothing else to be done. If you didn't get the number, if he didn't talk to you, if you didn't catch nothing by 2 a.m., yo, pack it up. I don't know if it's because I hate it. Just a point. I don't know if it's because I've been hanging out in New York. Good greet that I'm gonna sleep. And and and you know what I really hate is when I go out with people and they make me sound like a grandma. Me, I'm the most turned up one out of my whole all my friends. Could, you know, it could be all my friends want to go to sleep early. It could be that. And then I actually met people who don't sleep, and I was like, y'all doing way too much.

SPEAKER_00 11:51

No, I'm I'm I'm with you there. Like, obviously, you know, we're we've known each other for a long time now. So like we started out right at that age of, you know, being like 21, 20, 22, going out all the time.

SPEAKER_02 12:04

So sunset.

SPEAKER_00 12:05

I'm in like I'm in the same boat. I don't even like going out like that anymore. But if I do, I like I get there early, so I'm early too. I used to make fun of people like that, where it's just like, oh, you really don't want to be like staying up late and like and like and like turning up and all that. But as you get older, you have priorities, actually, because it's not just you know like something you're not you're not really having to like you there's less to worry about when you're younger, obviously. But as you get older, living the adult life, like I mean, you know, that's just that's just what that's just what comes with it.

SPEAKER_02 12:40

Girl, don't piss me off. I I can't that's another thing. I can't not do the eight hours. Girl, no eight, eight, like seven, six, the six hours they sleep ain't cutting it no more. I used to six hours of sleep used to do me good. Like six hours ago, I used to be like, yeah, let's go, let's up, let's ready. If I don't get the eight pool, mm-mm. It's not cute. It's very much, it's groggy, is is down. Um, yeah. And maybe I should pick something more serious because I can't stand. Why are we going? Why are the lights on? Why are we here?

SPEAKER_00 13:13

Well, if you want to focus on something serious, what's uh what's something that you're that you're grateful that you went through, you would say in your in your 20s?

SPEAKER_02 13:22

Oh, I was Dre had sent me the questions earlier because he's so he's so prompt and prepared, such a tourist. Such tourists. Um and it and I'm glad I reread it because I I didn't catch it at first. Um this is gonna sound it's gonna sound dark, but there's light. Um I was maldita say you heard the I was I was talking and I I was saying that I was I don't want to say grateful because that sounds harsh, but when my when it was COVID and I was in the house with all my family and my brother had just passed away, and my my parents and my grandparents, because you know we all live in the same house because we're all very Hispanic, okay, and we were they looked like they were gonna pass away and and you know we had to work as a family, as a unit to like get past that hurdle, like to get through the sickness for everyone to get better, and obviously from the um the passing of my brother, I think I am grateful for or the thing I feel like I'm grateful for is kind of learning the concept of like everyone's on borrowed time. Like you're not no one's here, like no one's guaranteed. Like I always say, like, even even when I hang up before before I get off the phone with somebody I say, I love I say I love you. I try to do my best to do that because you just never know the next time you're gonna talk to somebody. But just in general, like I feel like I was not not not not aware. It's just you're just not I guess you don't see it because you're kind of just in the everything's okay, everything's okay, nothing's really real. And at that point it got really, really weird for me. It it it changed me as a as a person, I I guess you would say. I just take things more more serious, like life more seriously. Life is more serious.

SPEAKER_00 15:23

You don't take things for granted.

SPEAKER_02 15:25

Exactly, exactly. I guess that's what I'm trying to say. Yeah, I feel like, you know, it made me more appreciative of the time that I have with the older people in my life. Things it it made me be more serious in regards to, you know, what is serious in life and what's not serious in life. That's why I guess again, that's probably why I wrote things off. Because, you know, seeing something like that, um it really like shapes you into what's important and what's not important.

SPEAKER_00 15:54

Yeah, and that's a beautiful way to way to put it, you know. Uh I'm actually getting like a little emotional with that because that's something that I've been challenging myself as well with my life in general, is just being there for the people that you know you generally love and support. Yeah. And um, you know, off camera, I was joking around home. I'm I'm I'm I'm very busy, I'm a very busy man, but it's not a joke though. It's not really but we be busy. But on a but on a serious note, you know, it's like our time with the people that we have here is limited, and anything can really happen at any given moment, so don't wait until that happens, you know. And obviously there's certain people that you know you may have a fallen out with or you still have that love, but the distance is at a much greater one. Yeah, you know, but it doesn't diminish the fact that um, you know, you have to uh be as present as possible. As present as possible. And and that looks different for everybody, right? So even like there was an example yesterday where I was so tired. I I I was like beyond tire that when I got home from work, I literally was just laying out for like an hour and a half, ate my dinner, worked on the questions, needed, and then was getting ready to go to sleep. But then my brother came back home, so I stood up and talked to him for a little while. Uh I called my mom earlier that night, and then I spoke to my little sister as well. Even though I was dead tired, because again, you know, even something as small as that, you know, it's important. You can't take for granted.

SPEAKER_02 17:32

Yes, yeah. You really can't. Exactly. Like it's it's so like vital. Like, that's why I don't, I don't really, I can't really get jiggy with the I cut, I no shade to him. I cut my granny off if she'll see how I see it. Y'all be losing me. I can't hold you. I cannot lie to you. But it's also I, you know, the background we come from very, very solid. Now, again, family is dirtbags. I have a lot of cousins who I'm okay. We're okay. I'm good. Exactly. We're fine. But you know, if if if it's worth salvaging, if it's, you know, if it's if it's core great, you know, core, core happiness at the at the end of it, like, we can make it work. Like, we can work it out, you know. And today, actually, I I texted Andre and I said, Hey, my birthday's coming and I want to yap. So can we do a little, a little? So he was like, Yeah, absolutely. And I told him I wanted to do it on my birthday. And if you're seeing this, it's not my birthday yet. But it will be in a week. But he said we could do it the week before, and it'll come out before your birthday. I said, That's solid. Today, I remembered earlier today. Today is actually Mark's six years that my brother had passed away. Today. Today.

SPEAKER_00 18:52

The day of recording.

SPEAKER_02 18:53

The third, yes, the day of recording. So, shout out to you, C, wherever you are. Love you real bad. Rest in peace. Love you real bad. Te quiero mucho. Can't stand you. Yeah, so it was supposed to happen today. It was supposed to happen today.

SPEAKER_00 19:09

That's just a full circle moment, like right there. Boom, bam. And um, you know, as far as like, let's say there's, you know, falling out with certain family members or people like in general, and you know, there is a possibility of reconnecting. Um, do you think that's just a matter of like life and destiny and kind of just making that happen? Or is it just more so like just, you know, like two people just, you know, like things weren't right and they had to grow and then they just like, or it's just what I'm so what I'm trying to ask is like, do you think it's more of like a divine intervention thing if there's people that like you have a fallen out and rekindle with, or is it just like a you feel just like a timing thing?

SPEAKER_02 19:53

I I think it's a little bit of both, right? Because I'm very much a believer in like you are who you are and you're not gonna change, and I have no interest in changing you. I'm very much like that. Like, I have no, like, once people show me who they are, once we're good. That's their intuition. That's our intuition. You you don't gotta tell me twice. I heard you, I heard you first time. Don't worry about it, sweetheart. Uh so, and you know, some people it's just like, you know, you just you just be like, we're not gonna vibe. You're just you're just not my vibe. And that could be whether we're blood related or not, but either we're gonna vibe or we're not. That's just what it is. Um in other, in other situations, I do feel like, um, and do feel like both parties have to grow, other both parties have to like go through something to then come back to some point to to for it to to work, right? I don't want to say that in a in a romantic way, that could be in a friend way or a family or whatever, but some people have to go through things, experience things, because the fact of the matter is if we meet somebody, uh whoever it is in in one path of our life, and then we go, we have would have had to learn something before we, you know. So there is something that needed to be fulfilled that that person at that time probably wasn't supposed to be around for. Or there was something that they had to learn by losing you in order for for them to become a better person. That's it. You know it's T. You know it's T when you see those two fingers touching. Carisha's so ghetto. All right, so Carisha's so ghetto.

SPEAKER_00 21:35

Yes, shout out city girls, though. Shout out, shout out city girls. Come on. I know it's good. City girl shit. So speaking of culture, yes, sir. Uh you are Dominican. I look Dominican, but I'm not. Such a liar. He's so Dominican. So part of the one one thing that you mentioned in our last episode that I like at the time I just brushed over because I was just so focused on like. Answering like my questions and super serious. Um you mentioned growing up watching Mundos and MTV3, and for a lot of the uh people that come from a Latin background, that's those are very influential programs. Uh what parts of that culture actually shaped who you are today without you even realizing it back then by like watching and growing up on like Mundos and MTV3? Oh my god, shut up. Oh my god, I'm so excited. I shouldn't be this excited though, for real. Yeah, you should. Why not?

unknown 22:30

You don't see it?

SPEAKER_00 22:32

You know it's better like to be like that than like, well, I mean, yeah, it's like that's ugly.

SPEAKER_02 22:37

That's when we fail. We don't like that. We don't like them. Um, girl, this is so full. This is crazy. So many circle moments are happening right now. It's insane. My quincenita, bro. My sweet quincea.

SPEAKER_00 22:52

So for those that don't know, we do, you know, American culture is sweet 16, but in Latin culture, it's the quintena. So the 15-year-old is the big birthday bash. Continue on.

SPEAKER_02 23:04

Yes. And this year, once again, we might have to drop this on Friday because we can't see the picture's gonna drop on Friday. Anyway, girl, my the theme, so I was supposed to have a double quince this year. All right, pizza, my double quince. I decide one with this economy and having a kid and trying to get out my mom. Right. I'm I prioritize trying to save money for an apartment than to have my double kinse, right? Because I didn't have a kinsei, so it's gonna be a double kinse. That's so fucking. If anybody sees this and y'all steal my idea, respectfully. Respectfully.

SPEAKER_00 23:37

Charge them a royal TV.

SPEAKER_02 23:40

Okay, and do invite me. And I would like at least three guest passes to bring me and Andre and two of our friends. Anyway, yeah, yeah, yeah. So I wanna have a double, I wanted to have a double quintet, but instead of that, I'm gonna have a double quintet photo shoot. I'm gonna have a double quintet photo shoot. Yes, it's gonna, the kick is gonna say 15 plus 15. It's gonna be tea. It's gonna be teen. But yes, that show, I wanted to have a quintet so my god. Like, and I well, I watched both. I watched my 316 and I watched my my quintet.

SPEAKER_00 24:08

Which one do you think was better? I mean.

SPEAKER_02 24:11

I mean, Tiana Taylor, when she did that skatepark 316, she ate with that. I cannot, I cannot. But it was that one Mexican girl, and she had uh, she came in with the with the Cynthia carrot, she also ate. She also ate. Um, yes, that that formed me. Uh, what else formed me watching Making the Band and watching Making the Band in Spanish? Jokes. Hilarious. Uh, what else formed me as a child? What shows formed me as a child? And just having the music choice going in the back and be like, mm, I don't really like this song. And we could flip back from, you know, we could flip back to the from the from the English music choice to the Spanish music choice. Very much tea. Very, very, very much tea. And can we prepare Sabalo Gigante? What's good? What's good with that?

SPEAKER_00 24:54

Like legendary and streets, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 24:58

I don't know if y'all know about Sabalo Gigante. Did we talk about this the first time? I feel like we sure. We didn't talk about this. Girl, Sabalo Gigante. There was a, it was like a mom who wasn't really a he was a mom because he didn't talk and he had a saxophone and he used to be like, it was like 18. Exactly.

SPEAKER_00 25:18

And there was that, and there was a whole bunch of kid talent, and it was like a multi-purpose, it's a multi-purpose talent show.

SPEAKER_02 25:27

How do you do that? I don't I don't know. That's where I'm out of the nigga that I started. Girl, that's not it that she started. That's where she started the hello. Yes, that's where my girl. Hey, goño, that was so violent. I'm sorry. Oh, yeah, that's where I'm out of started. Mm-hmm. Uh on Savoy Gante. And um, yeah, and I feel like we would bring a lot of bring back house parties. Bring back house parties on Saturday night. Where are we going? To somebody's house. To eat some Sancocho or some arro or whatever it is. Bring back house parties. Thank you.

SPEAKER_00 26:01

Yeah, yeah. And uh for me with that side of things, uh, Mundos is the one that I was heavy on. Um, DirecTV channel 400, something, because all the Spanish channels were in the were in the 400s. Yes. So I had my Spanish culture from growing up with my Argentinian side of the family. Right. Uh, but outside of that, like pop culture wise, Mundos is like they used to have like different times where they would show a whole bunch of music videos. Yeah. And that's what started to allow me to get hit to Spanish artists and all that. Because when I was younger and they would play like, you know, Spanish music. I like I like the family parties. I I never knew who the artists were. I just know like. I also never knew that song. This is a this is a cumbia song because cumbia is very popular. I thought it was just me. You know?

SPEAKER_02 26:55

I thought I was the only one who didn't know.

SPEAKER_00 26:57

I thought it was the swine. I seriously like that. So then I started watching that, and then I started learning about the artists, and then it actually allowed like allowed me to grow in my knowledge of the pop culture side of being uh Latin. And uh I didn't realize it until actually I was like, like I like I came up with that question, and I was just like, oh wow, like it really did have a big influence because I was watching that around like middle school. Right. It was it was around middle school, you know? And and um, yeah, that was my biggest takeaway was like aside from the shows that you mentioned, just like the you know, that played such a big part of like the culture. And I mean, I'm not I don't watch a lot of TV these days or anything like that, but I I don't really think there's any like Hispanic network or anything like that that really captures that outside of me watching span uh soccer games in Spanish.

SPEAKER_02 27:49

But if I have to watch a TV song one more time, I'm gonna lose it. I'm gonna lose my noggin.

SPEAKER_00 27:55

You know, so it's like it would be nice to see like, you know, some like networks again like that.

SPEAKER_02 28:04

Yeah, because you know, I mean, you know, music videos now, they're not long enough to be a production, but the ones that really do put thought the production, the production be production. No cap. Like the production is cute, like we should get to bring back bring back music gestations that show music videos. We need to showcase more music videos, and I don't want to go on YouTube. Thanks. Thanks. Thanks, management. Fuck.

SPEAKER_00 28:30

Sick of it. So another to to shift gears now. Uh you mentioned that you are a mother. Uh Way Dre.

SPEAKER_02 28:40

What? I can't get this song out of my head. What song? Oi and I spent out. I got he says a lot of girl, that music video was iconic. The down music video with Rakimi and Y, I can't get it out of my head because everything was like, oh my god.

SPEAKER_00 28:56

I haven't heard that meme in years.

SPEAKER_02 28:58

Girl. I gotta send a lot of it. That's the what doesn't mean. Come on. Yo, okay, sorry. Go ahead. I had to get out of my head.

SPEAKER_00 29:08

Before I get the other question, the the one song that like sticks out to me was um, shut up.

SPEAKER_02 29:20

You know what song I heard the other day and it transported me back, back. Um, let's get that kid on flex. Baby, thank you. Transported me. Oh my gosh. Transported me.

SPEAKER_00 29:32

You know what his nickname was? What? What was it? Red at the bird that's not when like actually understanding. They called him nigga. That was his name. Yeah, you're lying. No way. I'm not lying. I'm not saying that was his name. Really? So they called him that. Never knew that. Never know that. So interesting. Uh yeah. That's interesting. Yeah, very, very interesting. Fun fact.

SPEAKER_01 29:55

No more you know. Whoa. Fun fact. So you changed.

SPEAKER_00 30:01

All right. All right. Let me get serious now. So you mentioned that you're a mother. A morpha. Yes. A madre. So, how has becoming a parent changed the way you see yourself, not just as a mom, but as a person?

SPEAKER_02 30:17

I want to be so organized. I don't know how they do it. I just, I wish, I wish I could label shit. I do. I wish I could label it. I'm just not that mom. I wish that's that's one thing I'm saying. It's just figuring out as long as you go.

SPEAKER_00 30:33

You know, uh, we actually were talking about that off air. We're uh producers and I'm really talking about, you know, so like life is just going going through it and figuring shit out along the way, and now it's being bought up in this recording. That's all.

SPEAKER_02 30:45

That's it, that's all. I wish I could like label stuff for everything. Uh, but I'm not, and that's okay. I'm very, I'm very chill, laid back mother. I really be trying to let my son like just do whatever. As long as it's not like general core bad behavior, like mean person, not helpful, you know, malcriao behavior. I'll be like, yeah, bro, do you. Do you, do you. Yeah. But um I wanna say motherhood has like changed me in the sense that I'm always my brain's always on. And I don't know if that's like a I hear that's a mother thing and also like a female thing, but my brain's always on. Thinking about what's next, thinking about how to make the day go smoother, thinking about what my son needs, thinking about what would benefit my son in either way, thinking about how to make myself ways to make myself better, that would make me a better parent and a better provider for my son. I'm always the brain's always going in ways to better his life or better my life so that his life would be better. So I don't know if that, you know, is that as a mother or as like a person, but I was always, I always w I I always wanted to be successful. I've always knew I was going to be successful, but now it's uh it's like instead of being back here, it's like right here.

SPEAKER_00 32:17

And it's a lot more purpose-driven because you have a direct reason that you see exactly every single day versus someone like myself than the current position that I'm in where you know I don't have children yet or anyone else to really worry about except myself at this time. So it's it's just like, yeah, I have my own purpose and you know, which is still important. Of course, which is still important. Of course, but you know, now that I'm entering 30 as well. Um it's more common now to see children, you know, amongst like my friends, or if I do go to like an outing, you know what I mean? Like children are gonna be there, so I'm interacting with children more than ever before. And not an uncle. And I'm an uncle now, you know what I mean? So yeah, my so my niece is that's uncle ever. My nice uh so my niece is three months old. So I've gotten to see me. Hello, shout out. Shout out to me. Hopefully you're watching this in the uh future. Just know Uncle Dre loves you more. And seeing firsthand what my sister has to go through, I'm like, oh my god. Yeah, like even opening like my mouth. You know when like speaking of parent, you know when like a parent is like mad at you, but you're at like you're at like a grocery store or like out in public, so like they'll yell at you through their through their teeth and they'll just be something like, and they'll just be like, get you a software. Oh, that's my favorite one.

SPEAKER_02 33:43

Kai, Kai Huang, para eso. No, now it's just no. Before we was black, uh now it's just no. And then keeps doing whatever. It's very much don't talk to him like that. No, you don't talk to me. I have things to do. Yes, go ahead. Sorry. That's it. It's very, it works, it's very effective.

SPEAKER_00 34:07

It is true. And uh another layer of of you know, like things that like parents do, right? Was something you swore you would never do as a parent that you now do?

SPEAKER_02 34:19

Oh my god, call my kid all types of funky ass names. You little ex el cono su my mira, juez su degraciadito bang aca. I was like, I'm gonna talk to my kids nicely. You don't even gotta say all that. Like, you don't even gotta do all that. And now I'm like, Sumdita madre, me tienes halta, so maldita madrina, no te quiero venir. It's yeah.

SPEAKER_00 34:49

Got the English subtitles going crazy on the city.

SPEAKER_02 34:51

English subtitles, I'm yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. You mother. You, you mother. I can't stand to look at your ass face. I can't. Mmm.

SPEAKER_00 35:04

Cause like even if you know you provide everything that you possibly can for your for your for your child or children, which which most parents do, those those little rascals are gonna get on your nerves.

SPEAKER_02 35:20

And I don't feel bad about it.

SPEAKER_00 35:22

And you can't make me feel bad about it either. Cause that's because that's real, you know? Like, you know, like you've had like the longest day possible, like at work, and let's say like you come back and there's like crayons and markers like all on the wall or something like that. Like no. At bed, I think.

SPEAKER_01 35:37

I mean you're gonna, you're you're gonna, you know.

SPEAKER_02 35:39

Uh-uh. That's not the one. What's the one? The crayons ain't the one. Hold on. What's the one? Last night. Let's just go last night. Last night. Last night. At 10 o'clock at night. He, we're watching Zootopia too. That's our jam right now. Cool. I decide in the middle of us watching Zootopia. I'm gonna leave you here. Normal behavior. I'm gonna leave you here watching Zootopia, I'm gonna go shower. The shower could not have been more than 15 to 20 minutes. Not at all. I go in the shower, cool, I'm doing my business. I come out of that shower. And he runs up to me with stuff on his hands. And I hear my grandmother go, I, aye, why are you screaming? Why are you yelling? And I look at his hands, it's shit on his hands. It's shit. And little bell that out. It's shit on my baby hands. And it's and it's turd, and he's holding a turd of shit. I'm gonna lose my tooth, bro. Mind you. And I'm clean. You're not encouraging me to have a job. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Get out. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Girl holding a turd of shit. And then no, it's annoying. That's not the one. He hit me with one of these. Because he don't like nothing on his hands. Or because he's bougie. He's bougie and he don't like nothing on his hands. So he homeboy with. I'm gonna lose it.

SPEAKER_00 37:11

I'm gonna I'm gonna lose I've never heard that word. I'm not a wash.

SPEAKER_02 37:19

I'm gonna lose that. Yeah, yeah. And then you take everything off. You take everything off. You go wash his hands. I'm trying to, I'm trying to recalibrate because I'm clean and I don't want to be dirty. I'm dirty now. I'm clean. And then yo want G, why you stuck to my shit, bro? You gotta take a whole bath. Now now we now I have to give you a bath. It's 10:30 at night, and I have to give you a bath. You already bathed. You already bathed. I have to give you a bath because talking about a deep clean. And I know, and that's not that's not even the worst part. The worst part is I just walking towards where he was the path to the bathroom because he came to find me. Hi, mom. He came to find me. He left the drill. A child's church! A child's little poof pebbles. Like it's a deer in the middle of the woods or something. Pissing me off. Piss me off. Kids piss me off. Oh my God. Don't have. Don't do it. At least he's kids. At least he back cube. Shout out. Shout out to my kid. He bad cube for real. Stupid ass. Old light-skinned ass. Andrew, go ahead. I'm sorry, Dre. Go ahead. Just whoa.

SPEAKER_00 38:32

So let's focus on something a little less shitty here. Yes, a little less stressful. How is that?

SPEAKER_02 38:36

Better. A little less stressful.

SPEAKER_00 38:38

Since this is basically a birthday episode. Yes. What version of you, what version of yourself are you walking into this next decade as?

SPEAKER_02 38:49

I mean, not the baddest bitch on the planet, no, JK. Um, I don't want to say more confident. Is that possible? I don't know. Is that possible? I don't know. You're one of the most confident you that I that's not personally now, for real. I I want to be more I want to be a more emotionally graceful version to myself. I want to be able to express my feel my emotions and express my emotions when I want to and not overthink about what the repercussions are. I want to continue being a light and a beacon of love and light in the world for sure. 100%. I want to be more, I want to walk into my 30s, being more disciplined and focused. You are one of my greatest muses with discipline, but he is. He's so he's so determined. It's disgusting. He's so accomplished, so annoying. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm just trying my best, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 40:01

I'm just trying my best.

SPEAKER_02 40:02

Um yeah, I want to be more more disciplined, more focused, more, how can you say just more not get I'm easily distracted. I'm easily distracted. So I have to stay busy, I have to keep busy, I have to, I have to keep a routine of things that better me because I get derailed very easily. So that's what I want to walk into. I want to walk into my 30s more emotionally forgiving to myself. I want to be more confident, is possible. And I want to be more disciplined. That's what I want. That's what that's what I'm looking for.

SPEAKER_00 40:44

I love that answer. So Yami, how can the people connect with you? This is your time to shout out your socials and all that. So the floor is yours.

SPEAKER_02 40:54

I mean, if y'all if y'all ain't following us, by now we all do it. No, JK. Um, so you can find me on all platforms, uh, YouTube, um, YouTube maldita um, YouTube, TikTok, Instagram, Yam SkoMangoo. That's Y A M Z C O N M M A N G U. Yam SkoMangoo. Um, find me on all platforms. I am this loving and this funny on all platforms. Yes, I know. It's amazing.

SPEAKER_00 41:26

Awesome, awesome. Yami, thanks for coming back and sharing your insight with the audience. Uh, I'm sure you guys got a couple laughs, but we also, you know, touched on some, you know, serious stuff as well. And happy birthday.

SPEAKER_02 41:40

Thank you. Thank you for having me, Joy. I really appreciate it. I really appreciate you. Um, like I told y'all, I told Joy, I wanted to come and yeah. So thank you for allowing me to be a part of your world as always. I really appreciate you. And you've come so far, friend. I'm so proud of you. Like, this is amazing. Who know? Who knew a year ago when we did this? Like, we come so far.

SPEAKER_00 42:03

Yeah, like that, like that Paul Rudd meme. Uh, what is it? It's like uh, who would have thought?

unknown 42:09

Just like that.

SPEAKER_01 42:09

Yeah, just like who would have thought?

SPEAKER_00 42:11

Yeah, thank you again. And just this is yet another reminder that no matter which side of the fence you grew up on, we're all more like than we think. My name is Andre Sproul. Catch you guys next time. Peace. So cute. We're so cute.